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Sarah's avatar

Though I haven't read the "just be people" article yet, it makes me think of two things. The first, MY article on the burden of maintaining standards. It is easier to keep boys in a perpetual state of toddlerhood when we only supply them with unconditional adoration (the easy part as a mother) and forego the difficult part of teaching them how to provide value to those who will not love them as we do, which is.....every....other.... person. ..in....the...world. Easier said than done but it is one of the reason men's voices (dads or not) in the raising men conversation is so important. That is with the assumption that mothers, consciously or not, are not in the business of raising a man child who will perpetually shine only in the sunlight of his mother's love. But if we insist on doing it ourselves, if we constantly portray a father's desire to push his son in ways that feel difficult for us as default abusive or what we're really saying us, you can't be a hero, and you (father) aren't good enough to show him how to be one besides.

The second was a tweet from Alyssa Milano (saw rob henderson post about it) about not having fathers tell their sons to take care of their mothers when they go out of town on business cause they can take care of themselves. It's totally missing the point and simply communicates to sons "you're useless" while also communicating to daughters "any man who wants to protect you is wrong and degrading you"

For crying out loud, of course all the "heros" are having to overcome self doubt as opposed to a dragon.

I check your rant and raise you a tirade...

Edit: I don't play alot of cards, I think that should be see your rant and raise you a tirade...

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Excellent column, as usual. I don't need noir want for us all to see things the same way. But for others, dissent is threatening. Dissent challenges their need to believe that the answers are simple, presuming that the answers even exist.

I like this quote: "Both were met, for their troubles, with stunning ingratitude by the objects of their sacrifice, who felt humiliated at having their most-loathed children bail them out." I think progressives really detest Trump because they know, inside themselves, that he is solving the problems that they created.

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