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Holly MathNerd's avatar

The bit about how they come after the people plausibly associated with the previous regime next is gold. Yes. This. This is why I resigned from writing about politics. I was born at night, but not last night, and can see that step two of a right-wing-revenge movement is to come after people like me. I received upwards of 60 emails from other people who are also now closing their mouths about politics, both publicly and privately, for the same reason. The strategy is flawed, because it's got people who agree with the ideology of the people using it recognizing that it requires becoming something they're not willing to become. It's not unlike a conversation I had once with someone about porn. He and I agreed on its dangers and risks and it being an existential threat to the institution of marriage (since many, perhaps most, boys are now addicted to it and imprint on it years before dating is realistic). But outlawing it in a meaningful sense, an enforceable sense, would require giving the government power that I'm not willing to give the government. He was. That fundamental difference is what prevented me from joining his efforts. This decision, to brutalize someone who *agreed with* the other side, rather than who participated in the atrocities of the other side, is going to be the biggest mistake the right has ever made in the culture war because it's proven every overblown fear of the right to be not so overblown after all.

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Ed Knight's avatar

A second comment, split out besides it's truly an aside. One can use the revenge desire to accomplish a great deal that's positive with a little mental jujitsu.

I accidentally did this growing up. I was bullied and made fun of in 7th grade for being smart. So I vowed I was never going to let my peers forget I was smarter than them. I had to have the highest grades, test scores, etc. in the school and I worked hard to get them. Then I of course flaunted them. It wasn't until I was an adult decades out of school that I realized that my peers were too self-absorbed to really notice or care. My "revenge" didn't make them feel bad or stupid like I daydreamed. I was too much a typical teenager to realize that at the time.

Of course, working hard, studying, getting good grades, and excelling academically has some consequences all its own. Good consequences. I never paid tuition until I took a community college photography class in my late twenties (full ride scholarships for seven years, undergrad and grad). I also developed ferocious work habits that continued to serve me throughout my life.

I "got my revenge" through a well-lived life, all unconsciously.

And I've sometimes wondered if that path would be satisfying and effective if I had been more conscious about it or not.

Revenge is gasoline. I often wonder if we can put it in engines instead of throwing it on the fire.

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